Why the Church Bulletin is the Worst Way to Recruit Youth Ministry Volunteers

Source: Ministry To Youth

No youth ministry has ever had too many volunteers.

When you’re dealing with caffeinated teenagers, you need all the help you can get, and so you’re always on the lookout for your next great volunteer.

It’s just that sometimes they’re really, really hard to find.

You put out a callout email to all of your parents. No one responds.

You make an announcement from the pulpit. Nothing.

You get a blurb, front and center in the church bulletin. Crickets.

It’s that last one we’re going to talk about today, because whether it’s in print or on the internet, handed out on Sunday mornings or sent directly to people’s homes, the church bulletin is almost always the worst place to find your next volunteer. Here’s why:

MOST PEOPLE WON’T READ IT.

I know, someone at your church (maybe you!) worked really hard to collect, organize, and publicize all of this information.

The sad truth is that almost no one will read the whole thing. Most people will peruse the document, looking for things that pertain to them and tactically filtering the rest.

If your plea for volunteers is in the Youth Ministry section of the bulletin, you shouldn’t expect it to be seen by people who aren’t already somehow invested in your youth ministry.

If you’re looking for a few high-energy twenty-something adults to help with your Junior High Retreat, you won’t find them in the Youth Ministry section of your bulletin, because they don’t read that section, because they don’t expect that there’s anything for them there.

THEY’LL ASSUME IT APPLIES TO SOMEONE ELSE.

The vast majority of people do not believe themselves to be qualified to help in youth ministry. Either they’re too old or they don’t know enough about the Bible or they’re not cool enough or they feel like just don’t get teenagers.

You know that those things aren’t disqualifiers for youth ministry. Shoot, I’m too old and not cool enough and I definitely don’t get teenagers a lot of days.

People have an idea in their head of what a great youth ministry volunteer looks like and it’s usually not them.

Even when (and if) a potentially great volunteer reads your blurb, she’ll usually tend to believe that it was written with someone else in mind, and she won’t give it a second thought.

Once, when struggling to find chaperones for a winter camp, I received the following pushback from two different prospective volunteers:

40-year-old Parent:

I assumed you were looking for college students. I don’t think the kids would be excited about hanging out with dads all weekend.

College Student:

I thought the word chaperone meant parents.

It’s kind of ridiculous, I know. But when a church bulletin goes to everyone in the congregation, every person in the congregation tends to assume that they’re not as qualified as someone else.

And when you assume that someone else would be a better fit for a role than you are, you tend not to follow up.

THEY MIGHT JUST FORGET THEY READ IT.

Most of our blurbs end the same way, by imploring people to email the youth minister if they’re interested.

Given that most church bulletins are read in church pews, while people are far from their computers and where smartphone use is frowned upon, there’s a bit of a leap here.

The church bulletin helps you recruit a volunteer if they read it, if they believe that they’re qualified, and nowif they remember to send you an email when they get home.

That’s a lot of ifs in one sentence.

When you receive nothing in response to a printed plea for volunteers, it’s easy to get jaded and wonder why there aren’t any good people who are willing to help with what is an eternally important ministry.

Most of the time, that’s not it at all. It’s been my experience that most people will be glad to help if they know they’re wanted.

So how do we fix it?

THE BETTER WAY TO RECRUIT VOLUNTEERS

Your ministry could use a few more volunteers, so let’s go about looking for them in a way that actually works.

We’ll start by eliminating all of those ifs and we’re going to do that by recruiting volunteers one at a time.

Mill around between services.

Attend church functions where large amounts of potential volunteers will be gathered.

Don’t sit by yourself at potlucks.

Talk to a lot of people.

And when you talk to them, talk to them about youth ministry and talk to them about how they might fit into youth ministry.

When you put something in the bulletin, they might see it.

When you talk to them directly, you can be certain your message was received.

When you talk to people, qualify them immediately.

Always say the following and put something amazing at the end:

“I think you would be a great youth ministry volunteer because…”

If you can’t yet fill in that blank, then you’re not yet ready to make the ask.

But when you can fill in that blank, you’ve eliminated the second if.

You’ve guaranteed that they’ve received your message and you’ve given them assurance that they’re the right person for the job.

Even better, you’ve eliminated the last if altogether.

They can answer you on the spot and if they need time to think and pray about it, you can be responsible for following up with them.

You’re no longer dependent on whether or not they remember to pursue it because now you can pursue them.

UNFORTUNATELY, THERE ARE NO SHORTCUTS

It would be great if you could dash off a paragraph outlining your need for volunteers, send it to the church secretary, wait for the bulletin to go to print, and then check your email on Sunday afternoon to find fifteen new youth ministry volunteers lined up and ready to go.

Problem is, that’s not how it works.

In my twelve-year youth ministry career, I have never successfully recruited a single youth ministry volunteer from the church bulletin.

As in zero. None. Nada. Not happening.

But when I talk to people, when I listen to them, when I qualify them, and when I ask directly, I receive a YES in return well more than half the time.

You can too, if you take the time to talk to people, know them, and go after them individually.

Good luck finding your next great volunteer.

A Few Simple Ideas To Begin To Develop The Culture You Want

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The other day my team and I went out to lunch and began to chat about what we need to do to go to the next level. Before we can do that, we wanted to chat about how far we have come this year. Things have changed a lot. Our culture is way different. Our worship pastor said, “It’s like we have a whole new group of people and values.” It’s true. The atmosphere is way different now, intentionally so, and it’s been something we have ben working towards all year long. All year long we have been striving to change the culture of our Wednesday nights to one of actively seeking Jesus, leaders who are bought in, and one of fun, and all of the things we have done are starting to pay off.
So how do we do that? It got me thinking about some of the things our team has done to implement this change in our group, so I thought I would share. If you want to begin to change your culture, maybe consider some of these things:
Pray – Our team spent time in prayer together. We got together and dreamt and wrote down our values what what we wanted to see in our ministries and we began by giving it up to God. Yes, people can change the culture to a point, but the type of change that we feel called to introduce to our students can’t come from us, we don’t have that power. Only Jesus does. Give it up to him.
Observe – Before changing anything, spend some time trying to figure out the “whys”. I took crazy detailed notes. I looked like a creeper in the back as I took notes and began to write down things that could/needed to be changed. From the tech, to stage and program, to volunteers, job descriptions etc. Everything was under the microscope. After months of seeing how our systems were set up and looking at what they were producing, we began to address them one by one.
Apply slowly – At first there was just cosmetic stuff to make services flow better or look better. Everything we changed first were things we had the power to easily change. Graphics, social media, sermon illustrations, song choice, band and games we played. Changing the culture is not a “band-aide” mentality, you can’t just rip it off. People are biologically ingrained to resist change… so do it gracefully. After the services were were we wanted and we found a good balance, then we moved to people.
Volunteers – People are different than programs, we all know that. From the very beginning of me starting my position, I casted vision of where we want to be. Along the way, some people realized they were not on board, so they decided to get off. Others, not so easy and hard conversations followed. You can never repeat your vision enough. By the time you are tired of hearing your vision, your volunteers are just beginning to get it. Adjusting the vision of current volunteers can happen and when they get it, they go after it. Once we established who is in or not, we began seeking after new leaders with this new vision who all they know is the new ways and when they get it… they are bought in. Culture begins to leak from them to your students.
Relationships – Now that we have these leaders with this vision of where we are going and they know what success looks like, we release them out on students. Volunteers who understand the vision of your ministry and know what success looks like are unstoppable forces in the name of Jesus. This summer, all events we had were purposefully relational. Park days, beach days, summer camps with the leaders who get our vision has been one of the coolest things. This has established our core group of students and now we get to build with an incredible foundation moving forward.
I know there is a ton more we can all say when it comes to the culture of your group and I know the culture is different in every group. I do know, and have experienced, that if you don’t like the culture you can begin to prayerfully, slowly and change the culture you desire for your leaders and students to come to know Jesus in a way they have not been able to with the current culture that is in place.

When Driving Alone With Students

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WHEN DRIVING ALONE WITH STUDENTS

This post originally appeared on JIM’S BLOG and we thought it was so wonderful that we wanted to share it too!


We’ve all been there. Whether it’s the kid who needs a ride home after youth group or the kid who can’t get a ride to come meet you at Starbucks, the scenario is the same. You and a teenager alone in a car. Should you be concerned or is it no big deal? I say it’s a little bit of both. On the one hand, yes, you should be concerned because any accusation of misconduct could send your reputation, your ministry, and your church reeling with litigation. On the other had, no, because giving kids rides is just a normal part of life-on-life, relational youth ministry. We can’t stop doing the very things that set us up for good conversations just because we’re afraid of someone’s accusation. But neither can we set ourselves up for an accusation that could ruin us.

Well, for what it’s worth, here’s how we’re handling these kinds of situations. Whether the driver is me, one of my staff, or one of our volunteer small group leaders, the protocol is the same.

1. WATCH FOR POTENTIALLY ISOLATING SITUATIONS.

Pay attention to the flow of students and adults. Try to make sure there’s at least one other adult in the building until all the kids have left. If it looks like you may be alone with a student, ask another adult to stay with you.

2. TRY TO FIND SOME OTHER ARRANGEMENT IF POSSIBLE.

It’s best to work a little harder to contact a parent or guardian. If you just cant get a hold of them, try next of kin. If that doesn’t work or isn’t feasible then move on to the next step.

3. NOTIFY ANOTHER STAFF PERSON OF WHAT YOU’RE DOING AND WHERE YOU’RE GOING.

If you must give a student a ride regardless of gender but especially if it’s a student of the opposite gender or one with a known same gender attraction, leave a message for the parent (secure permission if arranging a meeting) and notify another staff person. If it’s just you and a senior pastor working at the church, make arrangements with him or her to call at any time if needed. Texting works great for this situation. Let them know where you are, where you’re going, and who you’re taking.

If you’re giving them a ride home from church…

  • Notify them when you leave, who you’re with, and where you’re going.
  • Notify them when you arrive there. For record’s sake take a selfie revealing your location if possible (this is especially helpful if your camera has geo-tagging and time-stamping enabled).

If you’re picking them up from somewhere to take them to a public place to meet such as a coffee shop…

  • Notify them when you pick them up and where you’re going.
  • Notify them when you arrive at that location. Again, take a selfie revealing your location.
  • Notify them when you leave that location. Another selfie.
  • Notify them when you’ve dropped them off at home again.

4. EXTENDED CONVERSATION IN THE CAR AFTER ARRIVAL SHOULD BE AVOIDED.

Unfortunately, my friends, the days of sitting in the car for another hour in the driveway in deep conversation with any kid in our ministry are … over. You should never isolate yourself anywhere with a student regardless of gender. The conversation can and must wait for another, more public setting.


jim murphyJim Murphy, is the NextGen Pastor at The Covenant Church in Bemidji, MN, where he supports the work and ministries of other staff and volunteers to kids, students, and young adults. He’s been in vocational ministry since 1992 and loves teaching kids, equipping leaders, and encouraging other youth pastors. When he isn’t working or spending time with Deanna, his wife of 20+ years, and his two daughters, Natalie and Greta, he tries to post what he’s up to in ministry on THENEXTGENBLOG.COM.

The Amazing Race

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The Amazing RaceIt’s time for Tuesday’s Game of the Week. While I almost exclusively share group or up front games, we are going to devote the rest of this week to game events that  you can fill up your calendar with for 2013. We start with one of my favorites, The Amazing Race!

If you’ve never seen the show, the basic premise revolves around teams racing against one another all over the world. The race consists mainly of CLUES (aka Route Info), DETOURS (teams choose between one of the two tasks listed), & ROAD BLOCKS (a task that only one team member can perform). In the television show, they race to a Pit Stop at the end of each leg, with three teams competing in the finale.

For the sake of this game, I am going to stick to Clues, Detours (this can be optional) & Road Blocks. Rather than writing the whole game out, you can download The Amazing Race Beginner’s Guide on PDF with a list of sample clues and suggestions to get you started.

If you want this event to be successful, make sure to plan at least a month ahead. Contact and recruit parents, leaders and businesses you want to be involved so they know what and when to expect teams. This also gives you ample opportunity to tweak anything that isn’t working.

Personally, I’m a gamer at heart so I enjoy putting together games like this. That being said, you need to know that this game takes time to prepare and set up. I feel the outcome in well worth it and the students have always appreciated the effort. This has the potential to be one of the best events you will ever do, it’s only a matter of what you want to put into it.

So take some time to read through the download and send me any suggestions you might have to make the game better. We would love to hear from you, so leave a comment below and remember to follow us on Twitter @stumingames!

7 Things a Daughter Needs from Her Father

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7 Things a Daughter Needs from Her Father

As a girl grows up, men will come in and out of her life, but the one man who will always be there is her father. A father plays a vital role in his daughter’s journey to adulthood, and below are seven things what a daughter needs from her dad. Our printable version is below. Also, be sure to check out the 7 Things a Son Needs from His Dad.

1. She needs you to be involved.

A daughter needs her father to be actively interested in her life. “Actively interested” does not refer to the second-long conversation that sometimes happens between a father and daughter when he asks how her day went and she replies with one word. A father should participate in his daughter’s hobbies and activities by displaying interest. For example, if she is interested in collecting coins, take her to coin shows. Use the Internet to learn about rare coins and talk about them.  Is your daughter talented in the any sports, such as volleyball?  Whether she wants to play or just enjoys watching the games, become an enthusiastic fan and supporter!  Show your daughter that you are interested in her life by learning more about it and trying to become a part of it.

2. She needs you to demonstrate a healthy marriage.

The first relationship a daughter experiences is the one between her mother and father. If her father disrespects his wife with physical or emotional abuse, a daughter might come to believe that is the expected relationship with a husband. However, a father that displays physical affection, respect, and a true partnership with his wife provides an incredible example that his daughter will want to mirror in her own life.

3. She needs you to support her.

Even though a father may not always agree with his daughter, she needs to know you will support her. When a father fully and wholeheartedly supports his daughter, she will develop strong self-esteem and a positive self-image. This doesn’t mean that you always have to agree with her, but show her that while you might not agree with a choice she is making, you will always believe in her as a person and have confidence in her abilities.

4.  She needs to trust you as a confidante.

When your daughter does come to you and discusses personal issues and problems, she needs to know that you will treat them with respect and confidence.  They shouldn’t become dinner-table conversation with the rest of the family.

5. She needs your unconditional love.

Just as our Father in Heaven demonstrates unconditional love, fathers on earth need to display this as well. Unconditional love requires that a daughter knows no matter how badly she messes up, her father will be there, not to ridicule and demean but to forgive.

6. She needs a strong spiritual leader.

A father should be the spiritual head of a household and should take charge of his children’s religious education.  Pray with your daughter!  Don’t be shy about bringing the Lord into your conversations with her.

7. She needs a positive role model.

Many daughters today lack a positive male role model in their life. A father is the first man in a girl’s life that she will intimately know. Her father sets the standard for all other men in her life, and a positive role model will help her choose a good husband in the future.   Take a moment for some self-reflection.  Are there any habits you need to break?  Are there some areas of your own life that could use a “spiritual overhaul” and prayer?  When your daughter sees that you are willing to examine your own life and make changes when necessary, you provide the best example she could ever have of accepting responsibility for her actions.

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7 Things a Son Needs from His Father

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7 Things a Son Needs from His Father

As a boy grows up, there will be many people who influence him and his development into adulthood.  As a father, you want to be the main influence in this area.  You are, and should be, his most important role model.  Below are 7 things to help you be the best role model you can be in your son’s life.  Here is a printable version for you as well. Don’t forget to check out the 7 Things a Daughter Needs from Her Dad too!

1. He needs you to love his mother.

When you love your wife, or the mother of your son, you are showing him how to treat his mother, his sisters, and all the women he’ll meet in his life.  This will set the foundation for the relationships he will have later in his life.

2. He needs to see you fail, not just succeed.

The best teacher is failure.  The best type of failure to learn from is someone else’s.  When your son sees you fail, and handle the failure well, he sees that it is okay to make mistakes and that mistakes can be great teachers.  A boy who is not afraid of making mistakes will grow into a man positioned to accept and conquer great challenges.

3. He needs your servant leadership.

You may or may not be the boss at work.  You may or may not be the pastor or minister at church.  You may or not be a leader in your community.  But you are the leader of your family.  Your son needs to see true leadership in your home.  He needs to see you leading by serving.  When he sees you leading by serving, he will better understand leadership and be able to more effectively lead versus follow his peers.  As he grows, he will better lead his family, lead at work, lead at church, and lead in his community.

4. He needs you to be present.

As you fulfill all the different roles you have, you may be pulled in multiple directions.  He needs you to be present in his education, in his social life, in all areas of his life.  Some areas are not intended for mom only, or for his friends only.  Your presence in all areas will give him the support he needs.

5. He needs your love regardless of his choices.

You may be the biggest sports junkie not living in Bristol, CT (where ESPN headquarters are located).  And your son may not be able to kick a ball if you placed it on his toe, nor care that he can’t.  No matter what choices your son makes, he needs you to love him even if they are different than yours.  Even when they are wrong choices.  Your love and guidance will open the door to trust and acceptance that build your relationship.  And it will build his self-esteem.

6. He needs you to affirm him.

“I love you, son.” “I’m proud of you, son.”  “You are amazing, son.”  “I know you can do it, son.”  “That was an amazing play you made!”  “You are a hard worker.”  “You messed up, but I know you’ll bounce back.”  Your son needs your encouragement.  He needs to hear the words that let him know you love having him as a son.

7. He needs you to discipline him in love.

When you discipline your son, you set boundaries and expectations.  He is going to make mistakes just like you did as a kid and just like you do now.  But he also needs to know that his actions have consequences.  Disciplining him in love will teach him to consider the consequences his actions will have.  This will prepare him to think and evaluate the choices he makes both now and in the future.

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A HUGE Potential Blind Spot Every Leader Should Look Out For

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A HUGE Potential Blind Spot Every Leader Should Look Out For

Posted by Justin Knowles on May 9, 2016

Pride: a high or inordinate opinion of one’s own dignity, importance, merit, or superiority, whether as cherished in the mind or as displayed in bearing, conduct, etc. … a becoming or dignified sense of what is due to oneself or one’s position or character; self-respect; self-esteem.

Pride is a scary thing. Scary in the fact that it usually comes up and we don’t see it. It rears its ugly head always too late for us to see it but always in time for others to see it. It’s so scary in fact that in 1 John 2:16 it’s one of the things that John mentions as things not of the Father: “For everything in the world–the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life–comes not from the Father but from the world.”

Why talk about this? Because this is the temptation of every leader. It’s a temptation I find myself constantly falling into. It’s something my wife always calls me out on. Pride is a blind spot.

Let me explain:

I get a new boss today. My church went outside and hired a family pastor to oversee birth through college. Why is that a big deal? I oversee jr high through college. Ouch. In all fairness, I understand why they did it. It wasn’t malicious on their end at all and I really like the guy coming in and I’m excited to work with him (I’ll post more about this in another post) but it still was hurtful to my pride. I’m not going to lie, I freaked out a bit. The definition of “pride” you read at the top became a living breathing organism named Justin Knowles. For a few weeks I was not myself.

Here are a few thoughts as I look back over the last month when it comes to MY pride, my blind spot. But if I’m assuming right, it is and can be for any leader as well. Here is what I noticed in me and maybe, just maybe, you see it in you too:

  • It’s not attractive. My wife was quick to let me know that. My wife Kristin AKA “the love & Live in Holy Spirit” of my life. It’s amazing (and I’m thankful) how a spouse can reality check you in the most loving ways.
  • It’s also not attractive for the people you work with daily. My guess if there was ever a time where they questioned following me as a leader, it would have been in the last month. Dang it.
  • I was focused more on keeping my title than keeping my team healthy and walking through change with them.
  • In my panic and scramble to keep my title, I was trying to make things work in my favor and I got the hopes up and then crushed the spirits of my team members. Pride makes you focus solely on yourself and you don’t see the wake of destruction until after.
  • I was not thinking about how I can better set up my new supervisor and instead I was thinkning about how I can better set up myself.
  • Pride is not of the Lord. It’s such a human thing and a thing I struggle with.
  • Pride took my eyes off what I have been called to do and made me focus on what I felt like I deserved to have. What a dangerous place to be as a leader.

I’m grateful for a God who is quick to forgive but who is constantly teaching me and humbling me. I hope and pray I continually work on this as a husband, leader and pastor.

 

@justinknowles3

Summer at the Movies

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The Heroes, Hilarity, and Harshness of 2016’s Blockbusters

An article from David R. Smith at The Source for Youth Ministry

A break up in the Avengers? A house full of scantily-clad sorority girls? Another alien invasion? Some ninja turtles, a lost blue tang fish, and a fat Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson?

Yep, that’s how the summer movies are going to start this year.

Every spring, The Source for Youth Ministry compiles a list of the films that are expected to make the biggest impact at the summer box office. This year’s films include comedies, superhero flicks, sequels, and even a decades-old reboot. But all of them have one thing in common: they’re targeting teenagers.

But sadly, not all of them are appropriate for young viewers.

movie1In Part 1 of this two-part series, we’ll look at the films that are set to be released in May and June of this year. Of course, this won’t include every movie being released – just the ones that promise to be the most popular with young people. We’ll include a link to the film’s trailer(s), the Motion Picture Association of America’s rating (where available), as well as a few thoughts about how the flick might impact families. In Part 2, which will be released later, we’ll do the same thing for the films hitting the box office in July and August of this summer.

We’ve got several blockbusters to discuss, so grab a soda and some popcorn. Here are the movies you’ll need to know about this summer.

May 6 – Captain America: Civil War
movies2Based on the world premier trailer, it looks as if the loyalty Captain America (Chris Evans) has for his old World War 2 buddy, Bucky (Sebastian Stan) has landed him in hot water with the entire planet…and Iron Man (Robert Downey, Jr.), as well.

For the last few years, Marvel Studios has thrown the first punch of summer and 2016 will be no different. The third installment in the Captain America franchise is aptly named; it appears a “civil war” is being waged between Avengers teammates Captain America and Iron Man over…with Iron Man taking the brunt of the punishment.

But the second trailer shows that Iron Man will get a little help – from none other than Spider Man, himself! In fact, this follow up teaser shows exactly who’s involved in the mayhem: Falcon (Anthony Mackie), Black Widow (Scarlett Johansson), Ant Man (Paul Rudd), Hawkeye (Jeremy Renner), Scarlet Witch (Elizabeth Olsen), War Machine (Don Cheadle), Spider Man (Tom Holland), and the S.H.I.E.L.D. agents we’ve grown to love.

Captain America: Civil War will not only be first of the summer, it might just be the biggest, too. Right now, it’s unrated, but will probably carry the usual PG-13 classification. It looks like it’s going to address some really powerful themes such as friendship, loyalty, freedom, and forgiveness. This film will probably produce a couple of MOVIE CLIP DISCUSSIONS for youth leaders and parents to use to launch biblical discussions.

The next film on our list won’t produce anything usable at all.

May 20 – Bad Neighbors 2: Sorority Rising
movies3The official trailer for the sequel to 2014’s raunchy original will bring back Mac (Seth Rogen) and Kelly Radner (Rose Byrne) in yet another fight against young, sexy, neighbors who have a craving for controlled-substances and wild parties. But this time, instead of Frat Boys, the enemy is a sorority of girls. The middle-aged couple only has one option: calling in reinforcements, aka Teddy (Zac Efron).

Yep, Neighbors 2 will actually put Efron and Rogen on the same team against Kappa Nu, the sorority that’s moved in next door. This movie will use some of the same plotlines – like air bag pranks – that made the first flick such a success with young people. Of course, since it’s about an out-of-control sorority, you can also expect plenty of butt shots, wet T-shirts, and shirtless Zac Efron scenes as well. (The red band trailer, which we won’t link here, shows lots and lots of drug and alcohol use…along with two scenes built completely off of sex toys.)

This film is has not yet been rated by the MPAA, but will probably get stuck with an “R” assessment. Sadly, this movie will appeal to teenagers because it will show them all the irresponsible pieces in the next chapter of life: college.

It’s best to just skip this one.

May 27 – X-Men: Apocalypse
movies4With the release of Apocalypse this summer, Marvel’s X-Men series will hit their ninth (9th) installment in the film’s franchise! Yep, a lot of mutants have saved the world a lot of times since X-Men was released back in 2000.

According to the original trailer, Apocalypse is going to have some spiritual overtones to it. In fact, the second trailer adds to those themes, even mentioning Yahweh and the Bible, specifically. The plotline revolves around an incredibly powerful mutant known as Apocalypse (Oscar Isaac) who’s woken from hibernation to destroy this world so he can build a new one to his liking. Professor X (James McAvoy) and Raven (Jennifer Lawrence) must lead the full cast of returning heroes in battle against the god-like enemy for the sake of mankind.

Bryan Singer, who directed X-Men: Days of Future Past, will also be at the helm for Apocalypse which serves as a sequel to his 2014 blockbuster. The film is unrated as of this writing, but is expected to draw a PG-13 label for sequences of intense sci-fi violence, action, and destruction, with some suggestive material, partial nudity, and brief strong language. In spite of those elements, millions of young people will pour into theaters to see these heroes return to the big screen.

Speaking of heroes returning to the big screen….

June 3 – Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles: Out of the Shadows
movies6#Cowabunga, the Turtles are back (again)!

TMNT: Out of the Shadows is the sequel to 2014’s reboot of the hugely popular cartoon series from the 80s that focused on four mutated turtles with wicked cool ninja abilities trying to save New York City from all sorts of villains. According to the official trailer, Out of the Shadows is going to pick up right where the 2014 film left off.

But this new fight will be ratcheted up several notches…. Not only will the green guys face down the Foot Clan and Shredder again, they’ll also go toe to toe with BeBop and Rocksteady, two evil mutants created by T.C.R.I. scientist, Baxter Stockman. Oh, and alien overlord Krang from Dimension X will be dropping in, too. Fortunately, the Turtles will have a little help from news lady April O’Neil (Megan Fox), vigilante Casey Jones (Stephen Amell), cameraman Vern Fenwick (Will Arnett), and of course, their vermin master, Splinter (voiced by Tony Shalhoub).

While this movie is also currently unrated, it will probably carry the PG-13 label that the original film received from the MPAA. Besides some corny humor and a few scenes of Megan Fox serving up her (obligatory) eye candy, this film should be fairly harmless. It might serve as a great opportunity for a group outing. Grab some dinner – pizza, of course! – and then head down to the theater for some action in the sewer.

June 17 – Central Intelligence
movies5Very rarely do I actually laugh out loud while watching a movie…but this trailer had me rolling!

Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson is introduced to us as Bob, an overweight and ridiculed nobody from high school who becomes a chiseled bruiser for the CIA later in life. When the encryption keys operating the entire US spy satellite program are stolen, Bob turns to an excitement-free accountant, Calvin (played by Kevin Hart), the only guy from high school who ever cared for him. Plenty of jokes fly as the complete opposites fight the bad guys together.

Central Intelligence is unrated as of this writing…and that’s a little worrisome. While “The Rock” has a history of doing (mostly) family friendly films like Tooth Fairy, The Mummy Returns, Get Smart, Race to Witch Mountain, and many more, Kevin Hart can be unnecessarily edgy and vulgar in his comedic presentation. The in-trailer tagline that reads, “Saving the world takes a little Hart and a big Johnson,” provides a hint as to what kind of content this film might include. You’ll probably want to check out our MOVIE REVIEWS & QUICK Qs page on opening weekend to get last-minute insights on this film so you’re not walking into the theater blind with your family in tow.

June 17 – Finding Dory
movies7The forgetful-but-unforgettable blue tang fish from Finding Nemo is swimming into theaters this summer as the headliner in her own movie, Finding Dory. The sequel will bring back Dory (voiced by Ellen DeGeneres), Marlin (voiced by Albert Brooks), Nemo (voiced by Hayden Rolence), and the “Tank Gang” from the original underwater family film, but will also add the likes of Diane Keaton, Eugene Levy, Ed O’Neill, Willem Dafoe, and Bill Hader to the cast.

The official trailer for the movie reveals the main plotline: Dory has somehow remembered that she has a family and is determined to find them. Her ocean-wide adventure will put her – and her friends – in occasional danger, but it will also help her discover what’s important in life.

Like the others on this list, this film hasn’t been rated by the MPAA, but if it’s consistent with the original, it will carry a G rating. This film will touch on themes like home, family, and the search for meaning, which means a few clips from this film will probably land on our MOVIE CLIP DISCUSSIONS page.

This long-awaited sequel will offer moviegoers warm-fuzzies. The next long-awaited sequel will leave them terrified.

June 24 – Independence Day: Resurgence
movies8We always knew they would come back….

This colossal battle of revenge has been 20 years in the making! In spite of Earth’s efforts to capitalize on the alien technology we captured after our victory in 1996, leading scientists knew we’d be outmatched if the aliens ever returned. And by the looks of the movie’s official trailer, they’ve returned with a vengeance.

Fortunately, we’ve still got a lot of the same good guys on our side. David Levinson (Jeff Goldblum), Jasmine Dubrow (Vivica Fox), Julius Levinson (Judd Hirsch), and former President Thomas Whitmore (Bill Pullman) will return to their beloved roles in this sequel. Noticeably absent is Capt. Steve Hiller (Will Smith), but fans of the first film will be introduced to his son, Dylan Dubrow, (played by Jessie Usher), a pilot in the Earth Space Defense (ESD). Moviegoers will also meet Jake Morrison (Liam Hensworth), a pilot in the US military.

And, of course, Roland Emmerich will be directing the sequel. He’s really the only choice we have for end-of-the-world-movie-directors. This dude has been more of a threat to our planet than global warming, nuclear holocaust, and the zombie apocalypse, combined!

Don’t plan anything for this film’s opening weekend. Millions have watched the trailers on YouTube and now two generations of fans are waiting to get their seats for this sci-fi reunion. It’s not rated as of now, but will probably be PG-13 like the original.

Intermission
We’re only halfway through the list of 2016’s summer blockbusters. As you can see, May and June are going to be huge! In our next article, we’ll cover the biggest films to be released in July and August. We’ll also include a few viewing tips for parents and youth workers as they set their schedules for the summer.

David Smith
David Smith

David R. Smith is a 15-year youth ministry veteran who helps youth workers and parents through his writing, training, and speaking. David specializes in sharing the gospel, and equipping others do the same. He co-authored his first book this year, Ministry By Teenagers. David provides free resources to anyone who works with teenagers on his website, DavidRSmith.org. David resides with his wife and son in Tampa, Florida.

 

My Students Can’t Pray

Source: YouthMinistry.com

Recently, I had the awesome opportunity to offer some training and speaking in a dear friend’s small town in Kansas. After five days away, I sat on the plane ready for home. Plugging into music, a favorite worship song came on just as the plane engines started to roar. I can’t quite explain why exactly, but for some reason at this very moment I teared up as I was overwhelmed with love for my savior. Not long after we got into the air the plane began to bounce and shake. My palms started to sweat and fears arose as the pilot came over the intercom with the announcement that rough air was expected for the duration of this 3 1/2 hour flight. My prayers turned from adoration to desperation. I asked God to protect me, to get me through, and for a safe landing. I pleaded for help and begged for peace. Thankful for wifi on the plane, I reached out to both my husband and a friend and asked them if they would also pray for me. The turbulence didn’t let up the whole trip, and in the brief interludes it lessened, the pilot would tell us more “bad” turbulence was on the way. I think I held my breath the entire flight. Upon landing I learned that we had actually flown over tornadoes and that was the source of the whole issue. At this point my prayers turned to gratitude, extreme and deep gratitude, for safety.

All I know is that conversations with God are what got me through 3 1/2 hours of struggle. It got me thinking about the way my students respond when the phrase, “Let’s pray,” is uttered. Some want to be the ones to share, others hide, and some shrug with utter indifference. More often than not I hear several get nervous and say, “I don’t know how.” What they are really saying is, “What if I am wrong in this?”

After this flight I am inspired to help my youth understand a little more about prayer:

It’s About Relationship:

I don’t have vulnerable conversations with people I don’t know or trust. Why would a student want to share everything with a God they may hear about but don’t actually know very well? If they don’t understand him, then let’s challenge them to get to know him. In recently reading The Jesus-Centered Life by Rick Lawrence I was struck by the idea of “shoulds.” He discusses how many of us have been told we “should” love Jesus, but struggle to know his love. Students think they should love God too, but they have no idea what a relationship with him looks like. I love this quote: “Jesus wants to capture our hearts, not force our obedience.” Let’s spend time helping students understand this; then prayer becomes an instant response, not another “should.”

It’s About Honesty:

My deep prayers as the plane was bouncing through the sky boiled down to panicked whispers that involved me just saying, “Jesus, please.” I was not the fodder for an inspirational story in which the person facing turmoil leads the plane in worship. Instead, I was trying to get the internet connected on my phone so I could text my husband. I wanted him to know I loved him if I fell out of the sky. My faith in who Jesus is was strong; my faith in the tin can in the sky – not so much. I was desperate and raw with the Lord. If we are in a loving relationship with someone, we trust they can handle our doubts, bad days, and tantrums. We need to let students know the God of the universe is big enough to handle anything and intimate enough to care.

It’s About Conversation:

Sounds over-simplified, but our students need to know that even the memorized prayers we say are part of a conversation with God. It’s not a formula or about figuring out the perfect methodology. It’s about a back and forth with the Lord. We have to help them talk and listen to the Lord. Our hearts change when we are willing to listen. When the plane engine thundered in take-off, I was struck by the thought of just how powerful God is and that he loves me so totally. Yet, not much later I was babbling on and on forgetting that worship of him. My conversations with him were about being thankful, honest, desperate, and confessing when I messed up. Since I wanted to spend time with him, it was natural; I understood he wanted to hear me and respond. I needed peace, I needed to know it was going to be alright. I had to stop long enough to hear. Let’s teach our kids how to pray, how to have conversations with God out of understanding how to talk and listen.

There are so many books on “how to pray.” I think too often we over-complicate the issue. Our students just need to know these simple words from Jeremiah 29:13: “Seek the Lord with your whole heart and you will find Him.” He’s waiting for us, with our stutters, cries, and everything we have. He just wants us to know him better, since he has always known us, and prayer is one huge pathway to make this happen.

Thanks for loving students,

-Leneita

Leneita Fix
Leneita Fix

Leneita has been involved in youth or family ministry for over 24 years serving in rural, suburban and urban settings, camps, small and large churches and non-profits. She has authored or co-authored several youth ministry books, including Everybody’s Urban Understanding the Survival Mode of the Next Generation among others. Leneita is the ministry and training coordinator for BowDown Church, co-founded a coaching and training organization called Frontline Urban Resources (everybodysurban.org) and lives with her amazing husband John and four children in Florida.

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How To Last In Youth Ministry

Source: LeaderTreks.com

HOW TO LAST IN YOUTH MINISTRY

By Andy Lawrenson

In 1992 I signed up as a volunteer Sunday school teacher for our joint junior and senior high class. I took the volunteer spot out of a sense of obligation to the church. The youth needed some consistency, not a different teacher every six months to a year. But, as a pastor’s kid, I had zero desire to work in full-time ministry.

After a couple years teaching youth, going to camps, and leading trips, I had an “Aha!” moment: this was what God wanted me to do with my life. Here I am 24 years later, still serving as a youth minister. I have been in my current position at the same church for almost 16 years.

How do you survive lock-ins, camps, mission trips, retreats, angry parents, apathetic students, middle school boys, and so much pizza? Last week I sat down with (here comes a name drop) Sean McDowell, assistant professor in the Christian apologetics program at Biola University. He asked if I was a youth ministry “lifer.” This was my answer: “I’m not sure I know how to do anything else.” Student ministry has been my world for all these years, and even after I retire, I plan to work with student ministry in some way.

So how do you last in youth ministry?

Take Geritol. Just joking. Here are nine ways to make sure you don’t burn out after only a few years working with students.

1) Don’t do it alone. Always make sure you have other adults who care for and love students serving alongside you. Invest in and serve with a team long enough and they become like family. Whether you have five students or fifty students, you need a team to serve with.

2) Find balance. Have a life outside of youth ministry. Find hobbies that have nothing to do with youth ministry. Take time to invest in friendships.

3) Make family a priority. If you have a family, make sure your spouse and children take priority over your job. Don’t give them the scraps of your schedule. Make your home your fortress of solitude—a place you can go to take a break from professional ministry.

Last_quote4) Take breaks. God took a day off after creating our universe, and we need to follow his example. Use your vacation time. Take a day off each week to disconnect from the ministry at your church. Each month go find some solitude to read and pray at the beach, on a mountain trail, in a state park, or even in your backyard. Our church has a sabbatical policy for pastors. Look into taking a sabbatical every five to seven years at your church.

5) Keep learning. Don’t stop learning. Read books, study the Bible, go to conferences or retreats, and continue to grow both spiritually and professionally. I found LeaderTreks’ Refuel Retreat and a recent retreat at The Cove to be two of the best youth ministry conferences I’ve been to.

6) Pray. Pray for your students, your team, your church, and the staff you serve with. Make prayer part of your daily office schedule.

7) Listen before you speak. Think before you talk. Our words can build up or they can tear down. We can encourage or we can cause damage. Be extra careful when you vent. Make sure you have a trustworthy person or network outside of your church to whom you can speak freely about your ministry struggles and the things that bum you out.

8) Don’t forget your calling. We can get so busy organizing, planning, and doing administrative work that we can forget what God called us to do in the first place. We need to make sure we are investing in students’ lives. Go to the occasional ballgame, sit down for a meal with some students, find out how you pray for them. Find good curriculum you can use for a series. This will give you time to write your own series, but will also free up some time to spend with students. We don’t have to reinvent the wheel, especially when it keeps us from the students we’re called to minister to.

9) Press on. We all know ministry has highs and lows. If God has called you to a lifetime of youth ministry, you can do it with his help and strength. Youth ministry in my upper 40s is so much better than youth ministry in my 20s.

“I press on to reach the end of the race and receive the heavenly prize for which God, through Christ Jesus, is calling us.” –Philippians 3:14